Are You Missing our Ex? Three Crucial Tips to Win Back Your Ex.

Are you missing your ex? Are you wondering how, if things were different, you could get back together with your Ex?

The door has been slammed shut in your face. Your shared memories and the little souvenirs that trigger that warm feeling and a smile you can't stop now bring tears to your eyes and a heavy weight to your heart.

It's over.

But...

What if it didn't have to be..?

What if there was some way you could get back with your missing ex?

If you're missing your ex like you've just cut your right hand off, don't despair...because the good news is that couples DO get back together again after what may seem like the end of the world.

All of us make mistakes, and maybe you have made one too many and find yourself kicked out the door, unable to hear the songs you loved because they remind you of him, or go eat in a certain place cos that's where you first saw her...

You could pay a counsellor or 'relationship expert' a pile of money so they can listen to your woes till you get tired of it...

OR you could try these ideas to get your Ex back.

Make a point of keeping in contact - BUT, whatever you do, don't keep pestering. The worst thing possible is to go chasing after them constantly, badgering them with texts and emails, calling in the evenings and at work, hanging out wherever you think they might show up.

So - keep in contact - but be careful just how you do that. You're going to be cool, calm, collected. You're going to be genuinely interested in how they're doing. Because the whole purpose of doing this is to let them know just how GREAT you're doing yourself.

And keep it short. Just a little teaser every now and then to remind them of what they're missing out on, just to let them know you're doing great without them.

Yeah, I know it's hard to do - especially the first few times. And it may take you some time before you can do that 'cool, calm' thing, so don't rush it. You DO NOT want to behave all needy and lonesome by calling them every few minutes. Or, worse, bombarding them with texts. So wait until you feel strong enough before making that call.

Doing these three crucial things will help get you to that point.

One: always try to look your best. Make a point of dressing nicely so that you feel good. You may want to walk around looking like a thrown-away sack, but fight that temptation, push yourself to make it look as if you can manage without getting your Ex back. Even if all you want to do is crawl into a hole and die. Especially if you want to crawl into a hole and die...

Two: get your social life back. It may be difficult because you've always done everything together, you both have the same friends, go to the same places, do the same things. But maybe there's some little thing you've always wanted to do and never had the opportunity. Why not try that? And if it brings you new people you can meet, so much the better.

Three: once you start to feel stronger, make them know you're over them - even if you're not! I have certainly split up with someone and still continued to love them, and I guess that's true of a lot of people. And I have not been able to get back with them, but have rebuilt my life - and, fortunately, found others who have triggered equally strong feelings.

Because if you can make your Ex believe that you're over them, that you're living a fulfilling and exciting life, you are beginning to make yourself interesting again. Think about it. What kind of person attracts you? And what makes you attractive to another?

If your Ex sees you living a full life, they are going to see again that person they fell in love with in the first place. And maybe they are going to wonder if they haven't made a mistake, whether it wouldn't be a good idea to try again...

But this time you're the one in charge. From being the discarded floorcloth of a broken relationship you have become the object of desire. You may feel that you'd love to get back with your Ex. And you welcome the opportunity with open arms.

Or you may decide that you like your new life, your new you.

Either way, by following these small tips you will have changed your life around. Now it will you deciding on your future, not out of desperation but out of strength and confidence.

If you'd like to find out more suggestions that could help you get your Ex back, take a look at The Magic of Making Up. Just click on that link for more information - and if you buy the book and it doesn't work, you have a guarantee. So you've nothing to lose.